overly moderated server+ power tripping afterwards

Joined many vcs with trusted members and had no issues but the moment i invited friends, they then required a staff member to be in vc along with us. They even said "there was no mod so i decided to sit in" like he was babysitting us? Then after i left vc bc i was being monitored for no reasonn, they named the vc "racist jokes" bc i asked them if it was bc i was black. they then muted me and spam pinged me and my friends who joined. Very childish im not surprised theyre all grown men and women yet allow minors into their server. Disturbing