Hypocrite and secret blacklists

Honestly, i really did enjoy the server. It was really nice and had quite a lot of emoji’s that i would frequently use. However it was brought to my attention that the server has a “secret” blacklist that isn’t even readily available to public. It was said for Verbatim, by their own staff member, "our blacklist media is not public outside of staff" Which i find redundant because how will people know what’s okay to post, say or even have in their profile without having a list? they strive to have a "safe community" however it doesn't even feel safe at all considering they'll judge you for your own interest that doesn't harm others. on top of that, the owner constantly downplays situations and their mods have gone above and beyond to stalk people's other's social media to "prove their point". Additionally, I find that their mods are quite hypocritical because they sit here and say that certain medias aren't allowed. (which, I reiterate, are not public information) However, they allow other media's that contain borderline incest and other that contains a problematic age gap. as much as the server was useful in their own way I wouldn't recommend joining if you're looking for a safe community to confide in and find comfort in.